Who’s In Control?

The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but victory rests with the Lord.

Proverbs 21:31 (NIV)

Control. It’s probably one of the most significant spiritual strongholds evil has used to deal out destruction and mayhem in America, including in our churches and our families. We think we need control. We think we have control. We think we can control. And therein lies the snare.

The truth is, control is and always has been an illusion. God is in control, and he suffers no rivals. True, we can influence some minor outcomes in our lives through our decisions. But let’s not fall into the folly of believing that we control those outcomes. As soon as we start thinking we can control, it’s almost impossible to not try to gain control. Struggles for power and control are often brutal, trust-breaking, relationship-straining, and deeply saddening. They can also be violent, abusive, and dangerous.

The moment we begin to grasp for control is the moment we reveal a lack of trust in God; and the moment in which we start to lose our peace, our confidence, our security, our joy, and our freedom. There is no exultation in playing God. There is only anxiety, fear, insecurity, pride, and despair.

As I read this verse, the Lord reminded me to trust in him. He is sovereign. He is good. He is wise. He’s never failed me, and never will. He’s saved my bacon more times than I can count–and those are just the times I know about! Slow down, fix my eyes on Jesus, breathe, and let go. That’s my prayer for this week.

Don’t be a Drama Queen

“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.” (Proverbs 17:1, NIV)

Thinking back over Thanksgiving, my guess is that most of us enjoyed a house full of feasting. Turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, corn, green beans, pumpkin pie–you name it, we ate it! Sadly, for many the feast was accompanied with strife.

While we can all relate to a little strife in the home from time to time, Proverbs 17:1 struck a chord with me beyond just family. At some point in our lives, we’ve probably all had to deal with a relative, a neighbor, a classmate, a co-worker, or a brother/sister in Christ who was (or is), shall we say, melodramatic. Melodramatic is an adjective that means exaggerated, overly emotional, or overdramatic. And while we make every effort to treat our drama queens with love, patience, and grace, after a while the words Solomon penned in Proverbs 17 ring true.

As I was reflecting on this verse, I began to think of all the other people I know who tend to be a little melodramatic. Then God gently reminded me that I needed to examine my own heart first. Am I overly emotional, overdramatic, or easily offended? Do I exaggerate to downplay my own faults or play up the “woe is me” line? Sometimes I am, and sometimes I do. Thank God for his grace and forgiveness.

When I tend to the melodramatic, it’s usually because somewhere deep within, insecurity is rearing its ugly head, causing me to question my value, question my contribution, and be threatened by others. So, I overcompensate. I become hypercritical. I turn into a serial complainer. I exaggerate. I stir the pot. I draw attention to myself because I need you to like me and approve of me so that I can feel secure in myself.

But the truth is, I’m not secure in myself; I’m secure in Christ. And that makes all the difference.

I don’t need to perform to be accepted and loved. I just need to remember who it is that loves me, accepts me, has called me, and takes care of me. When God is your Father and he loves you with an infinite, unconditional love… that’s security–who cares about anything else? My prayer for the week is that we will all remember just how much God loves us, we’ll rest in him and leave the melodrama to someone else.


Enjoy this song by Tauren Wells, and enjoy God’s love for you!